I don’t do this often – considering a 25% of my readers are men, I’m not sure why! But this one is for the men out there… Particularly, men who are thinking about popping the big question to their lady this valentines!
I’ve teamed up with Ukrainian Dating Agency, GoDateNow.com for their tips on popping the big Q, whether it’s just asking to ‘go steady’, moving in or if you are building up the courage to ask your partner to tie the knot.
Single? No problem…
Frankly speaking, first dates do not always go according to plan. A partner rarely (almost never) meets your expectations, which usually leads to mere distress and setback. What is important right now is to discard your expectations – each and every of them!
Yes, it is a good idea to create a plan and follow certain rules, but being stuck on a precise pattern often results in a lonesomeness and a permanent disappointment. In fact, you have to ask yourself – is that what I really want? After deciding what kind of relationship you are fond of, looking for a match turns out to be easy.
Smitten as a kitten!
Next few weeks after your first date is a perfect time to gradually let each other know some personal details. A deliberative approach to partner’s feelings is extremely important for this period.
Try being a good listener; as well, you need to find the balance between reticence and fatal frankness. It may appear that your partner does not want to know THAT much about you. Another essential moment is sharing various experiences. It is not only about talking; you need to try out how it feels like to spend time together.
Time to leave the toothbrush?
A day-to-day life next to a person reveals all the horrible skeletons in the closet, and simultaneously may prove that you actually make the right choice. As well, this is a phase to meet each other’s closest friends and relatives. If you’re not already thinking about it, having the blessing of your family and friends leads to stronger relationship satisfaction and lower chances of a break up.
S moved in with me last year, after we decided we didn’t want to be apart (puke – I know!). I didn’t regret a thing, and still don’t because we are happier than ever.
Put a ring on it.
Before settling things down, you should ask yourself some basic questions. Am I ready for this? Are our goals and values compatible? Have we reached the point of mutual respect and understanding? If all answers are “yes” – go forward and propose marriage.
But hey, if your reading this as a woman, you may be (as I was) blissfully unaware, that according to an old Irish legend, St Brigid struck a deal with St Patrick to allow women to propose to men – and not just the other way around – every four years. This is believed to have been introduced to balance the traditional roles of men and women in a similar way to how Leap Day balances the calendar. So ladies, no time like the present – am I right?
In many European countries, especially in the upper classes of society, tradition dictates that any man who refuses a woman’s proposal on February 29 has to buy her 12 pairs of gloves. The intention is that the woman can wear the gloves to hide the embarrassment of not having an engagement ring. During the middle ages there were laws governing this tradition.
I bet my boyfriend is absolutely TERRIFIED reading this!